by Rick Baker
On Aug 16, 2018
The Thinking Behind The Tweet
Self-confidence is built, over time, as stressful thoughts and situations are faced and dealt with.
'Stressors' bring learning experiences that test self-confidence. The capacity to handle situations expands with experience. As increasingly-stressful learning experiences are handled, self-confidence grows.
Without successful handling of stressors self-confidence has no chance to grow.
[Avoidance may provide relief but it works against self-confidence.]
[Unsuccessful efforts at handling stressors may injure self-confidence...but, only if you let it...failures provide the opportunity to figure out 'better ways'...sooner or later 'better ways' lead to successful outcomes and then self-confidence grows.]
by Rick Baker
On Aug 15, 2018
The Thinking Behind The Tweet
Common sense sends strong suggestions to direct our thoughts. We just need to allow them to sink in and register.
by Rick Baker
On Aug 14, 2018
The Thinking Behind The Tweet
Is your glass at least half-full and half-empty?
Rather than limit people to 2 ways of thinking and claiming one is optimistic and the other pessimistic, we ought to encourage people to view Situations and People's actions from multiple perspectives...by, for example, encouraging people to use tools like Edward de Bono's 'Six Thinking Hats'.
In some Situations, it is appropriate to consider what has been added while in others it is appropriate to consider what has been subtracted. Sometimes we need to consider possibilities. Other times we need to identify the need for urgent action.
This goes beyond optimism, pessimism, and realism. While that 'mindset' differentiation may be important, with people or with situations, it also may not be important.
Situations & People deserve a lot more thinking than optimism/pessimism tests.
PS: That glass-half-full-glass-half-empty saying has always annoyed me. It is too cliché and it puts people into a 2-dimensional box when all of us know we live in at least a 3-dimensional world.