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If you cannot be interested at least be interesting!

by Rick Baker
On Jul 15, 2018

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Seek first to be interested and to understand. If you cannot handle that maybe you can compensate by being entertaining...or, at least, interesting.

Stephen Covey - Seek First To Understand.

Perhaps people will warm up to you and remember you if you seek first to understand them?

That's consistent with Dale Carnegie's teaching.

If you cannot bring yourself to be truly interested in understanding other people then your opportunities for influencing them drop significantly. You may be able to squeeze in some opportunities by:

  • being interesting...attention-getting, magnetic...those sorts of things
  • being entertaining...like a motivational speaker or a magician or a clown act

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Communication: Improving Communication | Thought Tweets

Do you spend more time (A) annoying people or (B) watching TV people you don't know annoying people you don't know?

by Rick Baker
On Jul 14, 2018

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

The mob loves reality TV. As technology advances the mob watches real TV people decorate cakes, dance with stars, and catch alligators. The mob has an insatiable appetite for annoying other people - both doing it and watching it being done.

As the techies and academics work away at bringing us the Singularity, the mob gorges itself on a wide range of TV reality shows. What a juxtaposition. 

Listen to what people say...are their words the words of Victims or Initiators?

by Rick Baker
On Jul 13, 2018

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

We do better with people when we understand them...as Stephen Covey taught - 'Seek First to Understand'.

We all go through ups and downs and the ups and downs can skew our day-to-day personalities. So, yes - it is rash to judge personality too quickly.

Setting day-to-day variances aside, we all have predominant tendencies. While we do not want to pretend we are armchair psychologists, our success in this world of other people increases when we observe people and develop an ability to understand them.

And, people do have predominant tendencies. One of those tendencies has been captured by psychologists and labelled locus of control. Some of us 'have' an internal locus of control while some of us 'have' an external locus of control. People who 'have' the internal locus of control believe they can affect change and outcomes. They tend to be Initiators. People who 'have' the external locus of control believe they have little ability to influence change or outcomes. They are fatalists or Victims. 

Victims tend to complain about their lot in life. Victims tend to blame others. Victims tend to blame situations. Victims are pessimistic. Victims make excuses. Feelings of envy and jealousy hang around the shadows of Victims.

Initiators are the opposite.

[Give Victims comfort. Give Initiators latitude.]

You are the smartest person you really know.

by Rick Baker
On Jul 12, 2018

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

You are the only person you really know. That assumes you take the time and make the effort

After all...you spend so much time with yourself...you might as well:

  • Trust yourself.
  • Be yourself.
  • Enjoy yourself.

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Beyond Business | Thought Tweets

Doubters don't build.

by Rick Baker
On Jul 11, 2018

The Thinking Behind the Tweet

Doubters criticize. Doubters demotivate. Doubters question when questions are simply annoying.

In these ways, doubters are destroyers.

 

 

 

Better to be skilled at puzzles than cross words.

by Rick Baker
On Jul 10, 2018

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Puzzles are part of life. Often they turn out to be doors to opportunities.

Cross words are criticism and constructive criticism is an oxymoron.

And yes, crosswords are puzzles.

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